We all have some types of goals that we would one day like to reach. They range from big to small and they will have a deadline of the near future, too far from now. They are for anything under the sun. Of course, that varies from person to person based on where they are in their life. Goals have so many factors to them it can be hard to keep up or accomplish them.
I have so many goals that I must go after. I know I will eventually reach them because I am constantly working toward them.
Now, I know it’s not just me that feels like it’s All or Nothing when it comes to completing goals. Afterward, when said goal is reached it’s not good enough and we need to push past to do more. I find that this leaves me unhappy with what I have been able to accomplish thus far. I feel like I’m stuck in a perpetual cycle trying to outrun myself to be better.
In the same instance, We should strive to be better than we once were. We must be our own competition and never compare our goals and accomplishments to another’s. However, I believe we tend to lose ourselves in the middle when we don’t stop and pat ourselves on the back for all the hard work we’ve done to that point. No matter if the goal has been reached fully or not, we don’t think we can have an eternal celebration.
It’s a vicious cycle that can ruin you in so many ways, especially mentally. You will be continually be depressed because you’ll think you are not good enough. This may leave you to give up on your goals prematurely or you will run yourself ragged trying to do too much. The latter is both a physical and mental drain. If you are in this type of space, stop, recognize it, back-trace then list out what you have accomplished so far.
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Sent 100 collaboration emails
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Did A podcast interview
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A month of social media consistency
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Started a new endeavor and remained on top of it for a week with small growth
My favorite things to remember when I feel like I haven’t gotten anywhere is that growth is still growth. If you have spent any length of your precious time pushing toward your goals, any growth from where you first started is something to celebrate. Even if you are not close to the goal you’ve set, chances are you have learned something in the process. You possibly learned how not to do something or how to do something better. Either way, you slice the growth pie you have something to recognize that you have accomplished.
Sometimes even a simple pat on the back is hard to do because you don’t think it is a big enough accomplishment to bother. I always suggest to everyone to keep journals for reflection and clarity. To learn to deal with various situations that have passed or could also come up. With a journal you write what you wish to do, the steps you take to get there, then where you end up every step of the way. When you feel that you have not gotten anywhere you can reference the journal and see all your growth.
Don’t forget to journal your plans and map out your next moves as well. Not to mention what’s also been working for you. As I have done these things, I have found it becomes easier to move forward in my pursuit. It is also more enjoyable.
You will really be surprised when you see how far you have made it!
Now, when it comes to the big goals, it’s a must that we relish in any successes, before moving on to the next thing. Even if you only made it close to whatever your goal was, close to a goal is more than just starting a goal.
Make sure you ignore the toxic behavior of comparing yourself to anyone else, period. Comparing yourself is another deadly cycle that will lower your self-worth and progress. Only celebrate your successes and learn from any “negative” things that might have come your way. Also, make an effort to never put yourself down.
At the end of the day learning and growth is a constant thing that is ever-changing. It’s not something that anyone should ever stop, because you will stunt yourself in the long run. Just be thankful you are internally growing and reaching for new and powerful things in life. Always keep in the front and back of your mind that as long as you are making moves toward those goals, they will be obtained in the future.
How do you celebrate your accomplishments?